oh i don't know.  i'm a lot less worried about a professional athlete being assaulted by a tiny blond person than i would be about a tiny blond person being assaulted by a professional athlete, like i'm more worried about bigotry against black people than bigotry against white people. the kneejerk reaction is always: what if it were the other way round? well, if it were the other way round, it'd be different, because not all persons and situations are the same. you know bad things can happen in gender-inverted abuse: i knew a couple once where she hit him with a car and pinned his hand to a counter with a steak knife. but there are kind of overall actual differences between men and women, etc.